When I Grow Up I Want To Be...

... What Do I Want?

Inspired by this post (I really recommend this blog if you speak German) I wanted to write down my thoughts on the topic.

When you are young, you usually have lots of wild ideas about what job you want as an adult. Vet, firefighter, doctor etc. Some people go through with their childhood dream, but most will turn 14/15 and start wondering what they actually want to do with their lives. The older you get, the more people ask and try to push you in certain directions.

I remember being 19 and being asked all the time ‘So, what’s your plan after school?’ and replying ‘Not sure yet’, which always made people really worried. But how can you expect someone who is just about to finish school, who has never seen the world or worked in a proper job to decide what they want to do, often for the rest of their lives? That seems mad to me. Leaving school and just going straight to university. How can you know if what you chose to study is actually the right thing?

There is so much pressure nowadays and a simple Bachelor degree means nothing. You got to have lived in 16 different countries, have a Master’s degree and 100k followers on Twitter. Oh you also need to speak six languages and have successfully completed 15 internships.

It is ridiculous really. And I understand why young people worry so much. I was the same, and I still worry sometimes now. But what I came to understand, is that there is no set route. It is your life and you can do what you want and at the pace you want!

I am 23 and all I hear is ‘You’re now too old to study’. That’s not true. If i wanted to study, I would and there is nothing wrong with that. People are so worried about doing everything as fast as they can. But do you really want to be done with uni when you are only 21? What’s next?
I want to enjoy my 20ies and I won’t spend them worrying and trying to achieve as much as I can for the sole reason of achieving them so I am better qualified for whatever it is that I want to do.

I am using my time trying to experience different things to work out what exactly it is that I want. Nothing has ever taught me so much than just doing stuff hands-on. I moved to London straight after school and it really wasn’t planned. But it has taught me so much about myself and I now know that my plan to study wasn’t the right thing for me. And I am thankful for that. Don’t be afraid to take some time out after school. It doesn’t make you a failure, it gives you the opportunity to see life as it really is. And there is no ticking clock. You’ll meet new people, make experiences you would have never made.

Not saying you shouldn’t study. Or shouldn’t work hard to be qualified. But you don’t have to do it all in a record time. There is no shame in starting uni a few years later, especially if it means that you are 100% behind it.

There is also no shame in trying yourself out. Not everyone knows exactly what they want to do with their life by the time school finishes. And that's okay.

- Jen.


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  2. Ich liebe deine Haare!
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    Alles Liebe,

  3. So true! I'm not exactly an inspiration to anyone cos at 36 and a half I still haven't got a clue what I want to do with my life...but I am still studying and it's only ever too late if you decide to quit trying. The decisions you make about your educational path or career are not binding for life - lots of people re-train, sometimes several times. And sometimes the best things happen when and where you least expect them...so winging it is good too ;)

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  6. ich bin, mit ein paar Umwegen, gerade dabei genau das zu werden was ich als kleines Mädchen wollte :) Da war ich zwar noch träumerisch und habs Modedesignerin genannt, aber jetzt schließe ich bald meine Gesellenprüfung als Schneiderin ab und bin mega happy! auch so ein blödes Vorurteil, Lehre seien nur was für Leute dies nicht an die Uni schaffen! hab studiert, studieren für langweilig empfunden und nun erschaffe ich jeden Tag wunderbare Klamotten mit meinen eigenen Händen :) Jeder kann und sollte seine Träume verwirklichen egal was alle andere sagen <3
    alles Liebe Daria (www.facebook.com/neomeniacrafts)

    1. Genauso sehe ich das auch. Manche Leute sind halt nicht fuer das Studieren gemacht und das ist auch gar nicht falsch :)

  7. Erst einmal wollte ich mich für deinen lieben Kommentar bedanken! :-) Ich brauche auch eben mal meine ein zwei Tage Ruhe von allem. Deswegen nehme ich mir Sonntags dann eigentlich auch nie was vor, sondern liege einfach mal nur im Bett haha :-D Ich mag deinen Blog sehr, entschuldige nur dass ich zu dem oberen Thema jetzt nichts hinzufügen kann. Ich bin ehrlich gesagt zu faul mich jetzt nochmal auf Englisch zu konzentrieren, hab den ganzen Tag nur an meinem Vortrag gearbeitet haha :-D Trotzdem, liebste Grüße :-))

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